Following on from my blog last week about Forgiveness it might be worthwhile to examine in more detail what happens before forgiveness. That is, when there is a person, situation or event in your life that you are feeling really angry or negative about and how those emotions work with your subconscious and your conscious.

For background, our conscious is what we see, feel and see and it’s rational and “real”. Our subconscious is the larger part of our mind and is responsible for emotions, memories and habits. It also records everything but not everything is available to our conscious or rational mind as our conscious does not have the capacity to do that. That is what makes hypnosis so effective and fascinating and why so many answers can be gleaned from a correctly applied state of hypnosis.

So lets consider what happens when we are thinking negative thoughts about another person. Lets discard, for a moment, those considerations around that it’s not “nice” to do that or that it doesn’t make us a good person. Do you know that your subconscious doesn’t consider moral teachings like “good and bad”. Your subconscious just is. It exists. It records. It attaches emotions that you actually felt (as opposed to what your idealised version of yourself or society says you should feel).

So what happens when you are habitually holding angry thoughts, conversations, imagined scenarios, replaying old upsetiing memories and emotions in your head towards another person or situation or event. Well, rather unfortunately, your subconscious simply processes these negative thoughts as happening and it sinks down into your mind and it starts to create your own reality. Simply put, you think of anger and you meet angry people. You think of revenge and someone else thinks that about you. It’s sort of like a version of the Law of Attraction. Your state of mind determines your reality.

So the thought you are having about the other person is your thought, because you are thinking it. Your thoughts are creative, therefore you actually create in your own experience what you think and feel about the other person. This is also shown in the Bible “for with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged”. So this concept is known in several areas. It makes good sense to try and practice replacing negative thoughts with positive ones (even if you can only put rather small positive thoughts out at first) if only to keep your own reality and therefore mood in good shape.

Another way to turn off negative thinking of others is through meditation, calming audios and writing down gratitude notes to yourself about things in YOUR life you are happy about.

What thoughts are you thinking today?

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